What do sex workers know that almost everybody else does not?

There are some things that I learned while working.

• Many men are sexually repressed - We'd see many men feeling unfulfilled in their sexual relationships. This could be due to a lack of sex, not often enough, or because they are too embarrassed to say what they want from their partners. Some guys have a fetish that they have always wanted to try.

Some men are anxious to know what it feels like to have anal sex and get their prostate stimulated but feel emasculated to ask a female to help them explore this.

• A lot of our clients are married with kids – I'd say in my estimation, 80% of our clients were married with kids. Some spoke openly about it, some didn't and we never asked. That was for them to decide to come to us, and not us. Men are very easy to read. It's a well-known fact that some guys like to think they are dark and mysterious, but, sexually, guys are very easy to read! Some clients even used to call me a 'mind reader' because I would know what positions they could be in, how big, and what their genitalia would look like. I could generally tap into any secret fantasy that they had but had never spoken to anyone about.

It's not that I'm telepathic; I'm just quite good at reading people. And when you sleep with as many men professionally as a sex worker does, after a while you become very in tune sexually with anyone you meet. This can be a bit weird when you are thinking to yourself that the guy in the insurance advert on TV is into water sports!

• The most confident of men are sometimes the most insecure - Male bravado is something that lots of guys would come in oozing out of every pore. This was especially true if they were in a group of lads. However, when you get them alone, just you and them in a room, sometimes, it's not all as it seems.

I've had very, very poignant, sweet moments with males who were truly very insecure with themselves or their sexuality or their bodies, and I could give them very non-judgmental, gentle advice to talk about whatever they wanted.

• The different shapes and sizes that fetishes come in: I can say that I am quite unshockable. But, of course, there will always be one or two people who could ask me to do something that I've never even considered could be a turn-on. The human mind has many ways of arousal and some bizarre fetishes exist.

I am very open-minded, so I was always willing to explore something new or indulge in someone's deepest fantasy.

• Premature Ejaculation and Sexual Dysfunction are very common - Guys, you are not alone. I know that every guy on the face of the planet has NEVER had an issue, according to what they may tell you down the pub, but trust me, nearly every man I have ever known has come across some form of an issue at some point in his life. There is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. And when it's men getting together, they can talk up the number of women they've screwed, how they last for hours, and have never had a problem getting hard.

In reality, there could be an issue amongst many of the men you know that is silent and unspoken, yet affects the huge number of men at some point in their life. Get talking about it! It will reduce the stigma if men can be honest with each other and their partners.

• Men can be vulnerable, heartbroken, and assaulted - Some guys I spoke to had huge trust issues with women from being heartbroken. They may not have wanted to admit that to their friends or anyone else, but heartbreak can be just as painful for a man, as it can be for a woman and should not be brushed under the carpet. Some men I spoke to had been the victims of female sexual assault which caused issues with trust, yet they had been encouraged to think of their sexual violation as a ‘good thing’ by friends or society. Vulnerability is strength in my eyes. For a man to be able to cry or admit his shortcomings or things that have caused him upset and pain is incredibly brave and should be supported and not criticized.

Men are such wonderful, interesting creatures. I can only hope in the future that more dialog will open up to allow men to speak as freely to their partners and friends as they do in the quiet company of a sex worker’s boudoir.